Lies (some) single women believe.

Here are some of the Lies single women believe when it comes to relationship with the opposite sex.

 

1. “Mr. Perfect is somewhere out there.”
Men are human and should be respected as such. Unless she’s waiting for Mr. Jesus himself, she’s gonna wait a very long time. Some settle with “Mr. Ok is better than no one.

2. “It’s all about me.”
Real love is more about giving than taking.

3. “I’ll change him.”
When he senses you want him to change, his ego takes a nosedive and starts to feel less of a man when he’s with you. You’re not God ok.

4. “It’s the other woman’s fault.”
You don’t want to teach the man to cheat and blame the other girl.

5. “He didn’t mean to.”
A desperate women will excuse all kinds of behavior from a man as long as he has a reason.

6. “Sex will make him love me.”
Here’s a fact: A man doesn’t want to have sex with you because he loves you so much. He wants to have sex with you because he wants to have sex.

7. “We can talk for hours! He must be the one.”
Young men, beware of the dark side of talking for hours.

                          You can’t get other people lying to you. But you can’t stop lying to you.

COLLECT &SELECT

 A repost from a good friend of ours, Athens..Enjoy reading!;)

 February 11, 2012

Do you guys remember this phrase? Collect and collect and then select? I remember this soooo clearly because a very good friend of mine just told me to do this ‘indirectly’ . She told me that I should have 3 guys in the palm of my hand so that I can choose which I like best. And as usual my stubborness stands. I said no to that. She just got frustrated and explained that guys do that so why shouldn’t we girls do the same?

She has a point there. Why should not girls do the same? Give the poor guy false hope?? Why not break every guy’s heart and make sure they will cry? I am sorry but I am not heartless. I don’t have the heart to collect and collect and then dump every guy after getting my ego fed.

I still believe in basic courting. Stick to one rule. Dating one person at a time (even if it does not work out). It is so much simpler and a lot less people involved. Yes, greater risks because you only have one person in your hand. But would that really matter? What if it was just that one person you would spend the rest of your life with?

I believe in taking risks. But one person at a time. Building a solid friendship. Making the feelings grow. Deciding to give ONE person a chance NOT three guys.

There comes my faith and belief  in everything is beautiful in its OWN TIME. It is a decision to fall in love. And it is a committment for life time to stay in it.

To COLLECT people whom I will have relationships with for the rest of my life I WILL DO. I will let GOD SELECT the guy for me, for I believe HE makes the PERFECT SELECTION not me. It will be a perfect selection but NOT a perfect person. BUT I AM NOT PERFECT. So, yes, I do NOT want to be part of the collect and select world. I believe in miracles. Is that wrong to apply in finding a life-time partner and not just medical illnesses?  🙂

 

Collect AND Select

 

G.R.A.C.E.

I am a person who wants to do everything right. As much as possible, whenever I would do a project or a task, I want it to be by the book. It somehow gives me the assurance that if I follow a certain rule or standard, everything will work out just right. And being the conscientious type that I am, I often want to do things within my own comfort zone and try to avoid change or conflict.

When I entered a relationship with Christian, the man whom I really honor and admire- and now is my fiancé’ (Thank You Lord!)  those strong beliefs that I have with how things “should” work out was totally challenged. I believe God used him to remind me a lot of things. At the beginning of our relationship, we immediately set our own boundaries when it comes to frequency of seeing each other, physical boundaries, curfews and all that we learned from the books we’ve read during our courtship season. It really felt good especially for me as I thought that we’re doing it right. But as we grew in our relationship together, God just  rebuked me and revealed to me that I have that “secret pride” and that I am relying on my own “self-righteousness.”  I was just humbled and amazed as to how God used my failures and weaknesses in our relationship to bring me a “bit “closer to understanding how his GRACE works. I just got reminded that apart from His grace, I CANNOT really do anything good. And if we would still try to live life by our own self-righteousness, only 2 things can happen:  either we will become PROUD because suddenly we thought that we are better than everyone else because we are doing it “right” or it can bring a of feeling guilt, disappointment, and frustration if I fail to “strictly” follow our own standards.

Ahhhhhh..GRACE!!!As much as I want to explain it to you, I really cannot; because I don’t know how to explain it, Why? because I myself don’t fully understand how it works.  When Jesus died for me when I was  at my worst is grace. The fact that I am breathing right now and writing this blog is grace. What I just know is that GRACE doesn’t really have to be understood. It’s something we need to EXPERIENCE and EMBRACE everyday as we experience it.  Have a grace-filled week to you!!!