Just like many of the single guys in church, we talked about relationships, marriage and the future.
We discussed about clarifying why we do what we do. We easily fall into the trap of searching for that thing, that person, that relationship, that career, that gadget – to bring significance and security.
In other words, another functional savior. (To read my recent blog post on this, click here.)
In the course of the conversation, we talked about courtship and getting to know a person you’d like to pursue.
I asked him, “What’s stopping you from pursuing someone?”
Several valid answers were given.
I began to tell him some of the horrific stories I’ve been told of men reeling in ladies like a sea bass and when they’re all in hook, line and sinker, the nylon line gets cut.
They end up injured, hurt and bleeding.
In other words, DEFRAUDED.
Defrauding is “starting something you cannot righteously fulfill.”
Roses, chocolates, text messages, “mwahs”, facebook status updates referring to her, dinners… and when she’s has fallen, whether intentionally or inadvertently, the man drops her like a hot potato.
The Bible says in 1 Thessalonians 4:6-7, “No one should take advantage of or exploit other believers that way. The Lord is the one who punishes people for all these things. We’ve already told you and warned you about this. God didn’t call us to be sexually immoral but to be holy.”
Men, a word of reminder: women are gifts from God. They are meant to be treasured, not displayed and dropped when you get tired of them.
Proverbs 18:22 says, “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.”