Women’s point of view on men looking at porn.

Fact: Did you know that U.S. porn revenue exceeds the combined revenues of the ABC, CBA and NBC television networks (6.2 billion).

“When a woman is dating a guy who is looking at porn. It makes her feel like he’s cheating on her. Is he really so weak and desperate for sex that he has to pretend he’s getting it from some imaginary woman he’ll never meet? Sorry. guys, but for most of us girls. It just makes you slimy.If you want to avoid looking desperate. Avoid looking at porn.
It’s just plain ugly.” – Hayley DiMarco.

Christian: If you’re a guy reading this you think you’re struggling with porn. I would like to encourage you this battle can be won. But you cannot do it alone. We men need help from other men to fight with us. And of course, we need God’s help as well. Please email me at christian.ongtangco@gmail.com if you need more information and help about it.

Why Marriage Cannot Save you

By Sean Si

As single men and women, we all look forward to that glorious day when we will be married to the person we love. It is something that we all hope and aspire for. In a world saturated with pornography, sex and indulgence, lust is rampant. And we think that the solution is marriage – isn’t it?

 

Don’t wait for marriage to change you

 

This entry has been inspired by the book Every Young Man’s Battle by Fred Stoeker and Stephen Arterburn

A sanctuary against lust?

We think that once we get married, lust is not an issue anymore. Hey, we can satisfy our sexual desires in a way that is legitimate and morally acceptable to God in marriage, can we not? Yes, of course we can. But that doesn’t mean that we won’t get tempted with lust anymore.

From a very young age, people now are very vulnerable to getting exposed with pornography. And young Christian men and women struggle with lust ever since they can remember. Let’s face it, one reason why we look forward to marriage so much is because we have this mindset that it will somehow free us from this bondage of lust.

It most certainly won’t. Why? Simply because marriage does not, in any way, change who you are.

 

A piece of paper

I’m not saying that marriage should be taken for granted. No. Marriage is a piece of paper that testifies to your choice of committment and love to another person. It is proof that you have decided on abiding to a higher law. A law above your feelings and emotions and time. It is a law outside of this world. It is a law of God.

That piece of paper is vital. It is important. Never do business with a person who says otherwise.

But a piece of paper is not meant to change who you are. You are the only one who can change yourself – by making a choice. A choice to love and follow God and reject sin and lust.

That is why so many people wake up and realize that a wedding ring isn’t magic. A wedding ring is not a catalyst to changing who they are. And that is exactly because it is not meant to do so. A wedding ring is meant to be proof that you have decided to love someone unconditionally and nothing else. It is not meant to change you.

 

Don’t wait ’til marriage

Decide to fight lust now. Look at the truths about lust in the Bible and how devastating it is to just let it run loose in your life. It’s not easy. It takes decision, disciple and the Holy Spirit to help you overcome lust. But the alternative is devastating – living life with an addiction to lustful thoughts and sensuality.

Lust can destroy your marriage. Don’t wait until marriage for you to change. Look at all the adulterous relationships happening in our world. Married men are hooked into adultery, addicted to pornography and defeated into masturbation. Don’t think that once you’re married, masturbation goes out the window. It doesn’t.

Marriage is not about getting sex. If you make it so, you’re not really committing to love unconditionally. Sex is a part of marriage, not vice versa.

Lust is something that consistently knocks

on your door. Marriage is not something that can block it out.

Marriage can’t save you.

Don’t wait until you get there. Make a decision to stand against lust today.

 

It isn’t love if…

 

 

For all you people who say “I love you” when you have no clue what exactly love is !!!

Something to ponder upon…

 

Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing
and is your voice caught within your chest?

-It isn’t love, it’s LIKE.

You can’t keep your eyes or hands off of
them, am I right??

-It isn’t love, it’s LUST.

Are you proud, and eager to show them off??

-It isn’t love, it’s LUCK.

Do you want them because you know they’re
there??

-It isn’t love, it’s LONELINESS.

Are you there because it’s what everyone
wants??

-It isn’t love, it’S LOYALTY.

Are you there because they kissed you, or
held your hand??

-It isn’t love, it’s LOW CONFIDENCE.

Do you stay for their confessions of love,
because you don’t want to hurt them??

-It isn’t love, it’s PITY.

Do you belong to them because their sight
makes your heart skip a beat??

-It isn’t love, it’s INFATUATION.

Do you pardon their faults because you care
about them??

-It isn’t love, it’s FRIENDSHIP.

Do you tell them every day they are the only
one you think of??

-It isn’t love, it’s a LIE.

Are you willing to give all of your favorite
things for their sake??

-It isn’t love, it’s CHARITY.

Does your heart ache and break when they’re
sad??

-Then it’s LOVE.

Do you cry for their pain, even when they’re
strong??

-Then it’s LOVE.

Do their eyes see your true heart, and touch
your soul so deeply it hurts??

-Then it’s LOVE.

Do you stay because a blinding,
incomprehensible mix of pain and relation pulls
you close and holds you there??

-Then it’s LOVE.

Do you accept their faults because they’re a
part of who they are??

-Then it’s LOVE.

Are you attracted to others, but stay with them
faithfully without regret??

-Then it’s LOVE.

Would you give them your heart, your life, your
death??

-Then it’s LOVE.

Now, if love is painful, and tortures us so,
why do we love? Why is it all we search for in life?
This pain, this agony? Why is it all we long for?
This torture, this powerful death of self? Why?
The answer is so simple cause it’s…LOVE.