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from my friend Athens @ Iamblessedbeyondwords
Have you ever wondered why you are still single? WHy every past relationship never worked out? Or that guy/girl stopped giving you attention? Why a short-term relationship suddenly sounds really really enticing?
The fact is that we are relational beings. We need relationships. And at a certain age we need or want a partner. The question is what type of relationship you want. Going back to all of the above questions, it just means it is NOT THE RIGHT TIME NOR PERSON.
Okay, you don’t care about the so-called right timing nor right person but think about this instead:
1. Is it a good feeling that your partner would compare you with his/her past relationships?
2. How would you feel when you continually compare your partner with the past? Doesn’t that mean you have no contentment?
There are a lot more to ask but another thing I would really bring up that just popped into my head when i woke up at 5:30 am today although my work is 10:30pm (argh!) is my personal desire..
I don’t want to be a distraction to someone’s future. Everyone has a purpose on this earth and I want to fulfill mine as well as him fulfilling his. And I respect his future partner and I do not want me lingering in his past to cause future issues. And that I hope will also be a thought that someone out there would think for me.
This is committing. This is real-life, real-live relationships. It is life-time friends and family. All relationships are important, even if it is not yet marriage.
Would you still settle for a short-term relationship then after reading this?
Ever heard of “S.M.P. Samahan ng Malalamig ang Pasko? or Samahan ng Malalamig ang Valentines” (Christmas/Valentines lonely hearts club) I can still remember last year when I was lonely because I’m still single with no girlfriend. 😦
I’m always amazed and overwhelmingly grateful of God’s GRACE which He always pours out for us, in how He has brought me into this season of being “in a relationship” (before I went into this relationship I’m already sure she is the one). And I can still remember almost 8 years ago, I was a member of our youth group (back then we use to call it “YOF or Youth on Fire”), It was february “Love month” when our youth leaders, talked about relationships.
Start praying for WHO you end up marrying. That is a brilliant idea!, I said, Then I said I may do it as early as now. Here’s what I’ve realized.
You can get to support someone spiritually and since you know what you want in a guy/girl, you KNOW exactly what to pray for, for we know how hard it is in this society (our culture) to be a man/woman who is faithful, strong in conviction, pure, honest, and a ton of other things they need to be to be rooted in God.
Yes as early as now you can start praying for your future mate, even if you haven’t met him or her yet. Start praying qualities or traits that you want your future partner to have. But never expect that the person will be perfect because that person won’t happen. Our youth leaders gave each of us an article which have made a great impact in my life. I want you to prayerfully receive and believe these God message and promise for You, yes You.
On His Plan For Your Mate
Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone, to have a deep soul relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively.
But God says to a Christian, “No, not until you are satisfied and fulfilled and content with living, loved by me alone, with giving yourself totally and unreservedly to me alone.
I love you, my child, and until you discover that only in me is your satisfaction to be found, you will not be capable of the perfect human relationship that I have planned for you.
You will never be united with another until you are united with me, exclusive of anyone or anything else, exclusive of any other desires or longings.
“I want you to stop planning, stop wishing, and allow me to give you that most thrilling plan existing, one that you can’t imagine. I want you to have the BEST! Please allow me to bring it to you.
You just keep watching me, expecting that satisfaction, expecting the greatest things, and know that I Am. Keep learning and listening to the things I tell you. You must wait!
“Don’t be anxious. Don’t worry.
Don’t look around at the things others have received. Don’t look at the things you think you want. You just keep looking off and away up to ME, or you’ll miss what I want to show you.
“And then, when you’re ready, I’ll surprise you with a love far more wonderful than you would ever imagine.
You see, until you are ready and until the one I have for you is ready (I am working this very minute to have BOTH of you ready at the same time), until you are both satisfied exclusively with me and the life I have planned and prepared for you, you won’t be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with me…and this is perfect love.
Dear one, I want you to have this most wonderful love. I want you to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship with me and to enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting union of beauty and perfection and love that I offer you with myself. Know that I love you utterly, I am God Almighty. Believe and be satisfied.”
Isn’t it incredible? I was amazed and I so wish I knew who wrote it. If you read it once quickly, go back and read it again, think about what it says, and think about how you date and why.
I must say that every single Christian should read this. It’s short, simple, and impactful, and can change our outlook every time Christmas and Valentines come. Don’t mind the people saying “Kasama ka nanaman sa S.M.P. Samahan ng malalamig ang Pasko” (Lonely hearts club). God loves you so much, He is concerned of every area of your life, He wants to be part of it, including your LOVE LIFE! Yes, your very own Love life! Let that give you security and assurance that He is knows it all and He loves you so much more than your thoughts and imaginations!
Jeremiah 29:11 – “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.”
By Dr. Linda Mintle
CBN.com – You are dating an incredibly good-looking guy. You both feel the attraction building up. What do you do? Now is not the time to decide! It’s too difficult to think when passion overtakes you. You must decide before you go on the date what your limits will be.
1) Do not be unequally yoked.
Take II Cor. 6:14 seriously.
Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? (NLT)
If you are dating someone who doesn’t have a personal relationship with Christ, you are playing with fire. If you fall in love, what will you do? Don’t let the relationship progress to a physical point and then hope you can cut it off later.
2) Put on the armor of God daily.
You need all the help you can get in today’s world. Are you spending time with God? Do you depend on Him to meet your needs of love and security? You can resist temptation if you put on the whole armor of God (Eph. 6:10-20).
3) Put obedience over passion.
Not everything we do that’s right, feels good. In fact, usually the opposite is true. It feels incredibly good to give in to passion. But, the authority of Christ needs to take precedence over your physical drives. Society tells you to give in to the moment. Christ tells you to be obedient to His word.
4) Physical expression must be appropriate.
Physical touch/intimacy should correspond with commitment. This doesn’t mean anything goes if you are engaged. Physical touch should be in the context of a meaningful relationship, not reduced to satisfaction of personal need.
5) Limits must be set mutually.
Both partners should take responsibility for setting limits. Mutual boundary keeping reflects maturity.
6) Examine your personal motives.
What is your motivation — power and control, gratifying your own ego, meeting a selfish need, or genuine affection?
7) Is there too much physical and too little other?
If the social, emotional, spiritual dimensions are missing or lacking, you are out of balance. If you can’t stand the person but have a great physical relationship, rethink the relationship.
8) Less is better.
If one person is uncomfortable with any type of physical expression, don’t do it. You should respect and honor each other. Don’t push a date to do anything that makes him/her feel uncomfortable.
9) Be guided by love versus lust.
Love is the fruit of the Spirit. From love comes self-control. Operate in love, not lust.
10) Allow the Holy Spirit to direct and lead you.
If you feel convicted of certain behaviors, stop doing them.
Special Note: If you are a teen, you must honor your parents and respect their counsel (Ephesians 6:2-3). You are subject to parental authority. Don’t be sexually active just because you can get away with it.
You may want to see Love vs. Infatuation
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Just want to share this beautiful song “Love is waiting” by Brooke Fraser.
“Love Is Waiting”
In the autumn on the ground,
between the traffic and the ordinary sounds
I am thinking signs and seasons while a north wind blows through
I watch as lovers pass me by
Walking stories – whos and hows and whys
Musing lazily on love
I’ll give it time, give it space and be still for a spell
When it’s time to walk that way we wanna walk it well
I’ll be waiting for you baby
I’ll be holding back the darkest night
Love is waiting til we’re ready, til it’s right
Love is waiting
It’s my caution not the cold
there’s no other hand that i would rather hold
the climate changes, I’m singing for the strangers about you
don’t keep time, slow the pace
Honey hold on if you can
the bets are getting surer now that you’re my man
I could write a million songs about the way you say my name
I could live a lifetime with you and then do it all again
and like I can’t force the sun to rise or hasten summer’s start,
neither should I rush my way into your heart
Love is patient….. – 1 Corinthians 13
by Godly youth
The most profound advice for romantic relationships is found several times in the Song of Solomon. The phrase “do not awaken love until it pleases” is used within the Song as an encouragement to others and a reminder to be patient in one’s own relationship. What does this phrase mean?
Love can be compared to a lovely flower that blooms beautiful in its proper season. No amount of sunlight, water, or nutrients can force the flower to bloom before its time. Attempts to physically force the flower from the bud will only damage or destroy the flower. However, if you provide the nutrients and proper environment the flower will bloom beautifully on its own and often at an unexpected, unobserved time.
Consider some common mistakes in failing to “awaken love until it pleases:”
- Trying to force a romantic relationship. I have known frustrated people who liked someone then relentlessly pursued them trying to make them fall in love. They usually repelled the person instead. Usually the other person feels like prey in a predator’s shadow instead of flattered by the attention. A manipulative person might take advantage of the pursuer, acting interested to get what they want from the desparate person, then dropping them when they are finished playing.
- Changing oneself to please another. When you try to change who you are to appeal to someone you are infatuated with, you are trying to force the flower open. Ultimately the relationship is due to dissatisfaction, unhapiness, and failure because you will tire of playing the part and long to be yourself again. When you revert to yourself the other person will feel decieved and hurt that you could not be honest with them. They will probably be unintersested since they fell in love with a character you were playing–not you.
- Settling for someone. Sometimes people will decide to “fall in love” or marry someone because they either dated for a long time or because they are older and “there aren’t many available men/women.” There is no predetermined time or natural law that states when people will fall in love. How sad it would be to just marry someone because of habit or fear then meet someone that would be the ideal spouse. If you have dated someone for years and you are often fighting or have no deep love for the person, spare yourself and them future heartache and damage and break off the relationship so you can be ready to meet someone with whom love can bloom.
- Rushing physical expressions of love. True love develops through friendship, not the passionate scenes of Hollywood productions. Couples should not feel pressure to hold hands, kiss, or show other physical signs of affection. In fact, it is healthy to hold off on any physical expressions while you let the relationship develop. When the physical expressions of love are introduced sometimes they become the focus to the neglect of the non-physical and the pressure to escalate the physical aspects of the relationship intensifies.
- Sex before marriage. Some feel that if they give in dating what should only be given in marriage, that they will win the heart of their love interest. Statistically, it has the opposite effect. As with the one trying to force a relationship, a user will play on this tendency and get what they want until they are bored or an opportunity with someone else arises. God gave the sexual relationship for marriage to bind the couple closer together but the secret to its power is the ’til-death-do-you-part committment between the husband and wife. Keeping this relationship for marriage alone will allow it to blossom and grow: a special flower for the husband and wife alone.
True love is more beautiful than any flower but it must be allowed to grow and bloom in its own time. “Do not awaken love until it pleases.” Be patient and enjoy the friendship until the love blooms then take care of it like a precious tender plant.
As I was looking for my seat in a bus on my way to work, I saw a girl with a wallpaper on her phone. The wallpaper says ” True love waits”. I told myself she must be a Christian too, maybe not , she might have read the book or she just kinda like the idea of it.
Then I remember that was my “motto” during my “waiting season, from the time I was still in college trying to fight with infatuations and crushes. But then hit me and reminded me that it still applies with me. Even more for me.
Even more for couple who are in a courtship, relationship, engaged. There where moments when I would daydream of being in one house with Ayi. Can’t wait to finally call her mine, my wife.
But just like what the wallpaper says “True love waits“.
We choose to trust in Christ . We exercise our love each other all the more as we choose to be patient, as we choose to wait. We would like to ask the readers to keep us in your prayers too. Thank you!
If I was able to wait for her for 28 years. What more for the next couple of months/years.
If God has enabled me to wait till the time He revealed her to me, God’s grace is all the more sufficient for me to wait until he has brought us to enter that new chapter of our lives, marriage.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.” – 1 Cor 13:4