The following is a quick one and a half minute video of Dr. John Maxwell speaking on the subject of marriage.
Commitment and Friendship – these are the two essentials of marriage as shared above. Incidentally, these two are included in the “7 Building Blocks of Lasting Marriages” seminar that I created early this year.
Marriage is not only a partnership but also a friendship. What I mean is the loose, non-formal, “just-hanging-out” aspect of friendship. You see, many of us began as friends and deepened our friendships with our partner before we got married. But what happened after the wedding and as the years passed by?
We became inundated with responsibilities such that we barely have time to just relax and play a game or sport together. Or perhaps there’s too much tension and conflict between you and your spouse that caused you to drift away from each other.
I’ve been there and done that. Here’s my conclusion. A good friendship with your partner will not simply come about out of thin air. Friendship has to be cultivated intentionally. You have to carve out time where you can just relax, enjoy, and simply hang out with your spouse like what you actually do with “friends.”
Go For It
1) Talk to your partner and pick a relaxing activity which you will both enjoy. (Some ideas: play badminton, watch a movie, have a massage, go to the beach, etc.)
2) Schedule some time within the week for that activity. Make time for it! (No excuses.)