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To pursue is to be a Man!

from actlikeaman.org

aIt is not a word you often hear people use when it comes to courting a girl. Maybe because it is mostly used by men in achurch and in teachings on courtship and biblical manhood but I do believe this word is worth knowing and applying.

Men – don’t dilly dally when you like a girl. Pursue her with the best intentions in mind. Pursuing connotes action. It is not passive. It takes risk and leadership.

You go after the girl!!! You don’t wait for the girl, you get on your horse, sharpen your sword, slay the dragon and get that girl.

For women, being pursued is a great experience. I know a girl who has been courted so many times but when this man from church used and live out “pursuing” to its very core, she felt beautiful, treasured and like a princess in the real sense.

In her new book Where Have All the Good Men Gone?: Why So Many Christian Women Are Remaining Single
A.J. Kiesling reports her findings from an in-depth survey of 120 single Christian women. What was their most common complaint about men? Kiesling reports: “Over and over I heard the words, ‘I wish men would step up to the plate and take a risk in asking me out.’”

Here is feedback that Kiesling received directly from real-world single Christian women about Christian men.

“God didn’t create you to be passive. Pursuit seems to be obsolete, but we still want to be pursued.”

“It seems like men aren’t willing to take the risk of asking a woman out, since they don’t have to anymore. There are plenty of women who will chase them, yet I won’t. I want them to pursue me.”

“Quit saying, ‘I’m waiting on God to bring me my future mate.’ What a cop-out! You’re scared, and you’re afraid of being hurt or rejected and — gasp! — you might be tempted to have sex!”

Be the man and step up the plate. Pursue the girl. It is how things work!!!

On pursuing women… a word of caution

by Pastor Paolo Punzalan


I had breakfast with one of the guys from church.

Just like many of the single guys in church, we talked about relationships, marriage and the future.

We discussed about clarifying why we do what we do. We easily fall into the trap of searching for that thing, that person, that relationship, that career, that gadget – to bring significance and security.

In other words, another functional savior. (To read my recent blog post on this, click here.)

In the course of the conversation, we talked about courtship and getting to know a person you’d like to pursue.

I asked him, “What’s stopping you from pursuing someone?”

Several valid answers were given.

I began to tell him some of the horrific stories I’ve been told of men reeling in ladies like a sea bass and when they’re all in hook, line and sinker, the nylon line gets cut.

They end up injured, hurt and bleeding.

In other words, DEFRAUDED.

Defrauding is “starting something you cannot righteously fulfill.”

Roses, chocolates, text messages, “mwahs”, facebook status updates referring to her, dinners… and when she’s has fallen, whether intentionally or inadvertently, the man drops her like a hot potato.

The Bible says in 1 Thessalonians 4:6-7, “No one should take advantage of or exploit other believers that way. The Lord is the one who punishes people for all these things. We’ve already told you and warned you about this. God didn’t call us to be sexually immoral but to be holy.”

Men, a word of reminder: women are gifts from God. They are meant to be treasured, not displayed and dropped when you get tired of them.

Proverbs 18:22 says, “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.”


She deserves better

Should I text him?

Saw this photo in the Singles ministry Facebook group of our church



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