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On pursuing women… a word of caution

by Pastor Paolo Punzalan

 

I had breakfast with one of the guys from church.

Just like many of the single guys in church, we talked about relationships, marriage and the future.

We discussed about clarifying why we do what we do. We easily fall into the trap of searching for that thing, that person, that relationship, that career, that gadget – to bring significance and security.

In other words, another functional savior. (To read my recent blog post on this, click here.)

In the course of the conversation, we talked about courtship and getting to know a person you’d like to pursue.

I asked him, “What’s stopping you from pursuing someone?”

Several valid answers were given.

I began to tell him some of the horrific stories I’ve been told of men reeling in ladies like a sea bass and when they’re all in hook, line and sinker, the nylon line gets cut.

They end up injured, hurt and bleeding.

In other words, DEFRAUDED.

Defrauding is “starting something you cannot righteously fulfill.”

Roses, chocolates, text messages, “mwahs”, facebook status updates referring to her, dinners… and when she’s has fallen, whether intentionally or inadvertently, the man drops her like a hot potato.

The Bible says in 1 Thessalonians 4:6-7, “No one should take advantage of or exploit other believers that way. The Lord is the one who punishes people for all these things. We’ve already told you and warned you about this. God didn’t call us to be sexually immoral but to be holy.”

Men, a word of reminder: women are gifts from God. They are meant to be treasured, not displayed and dropped when you get tired of them.

Proverbs 18:22 says, “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.”

 

She deserves better

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Advice for single people

by Shane Duffey here are some quotes from him…
• singles – have you ever considered praying that God would literally shape the eyes of your future mate to love exactly who you are?
• singles – have you ever asked Him to shape the mind of your future mate to complement and complete you instead of mimic you?
• singles – have you ever asked God to prepare your heart from the unexpected… instead of expected Him to give you what you think u want?
• single men – ball up and ask a girl out
• single men – treat all single ladies with respect (& as a friend once told me) lead her away from the curse instead of toward your bedroom
• single men – quit hanging with girls you have no intention of pursuing just to get your emotional jollies
• single men – ACT LIKE A MAN and not a middle schooler… they’ll be time enough for that once your married
• single ladies – quit thinking that just b/c a guy asked you out that he wants to marry you… just stop that!
• single ladies – stop rejecting date offers from guys just b/c God didn’t put a big sign over him that says “This is THE one”!
• single ladies – stop talking about a guy you may like with your other single friends b/c they’ll impose all their past hurt on him
• single people of all sexes – unless you want to live in arranged marriage countries… go on some dates … just act like you know Jesus
DANG!!!

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